Remembering Norman

June 18, 2017

I read a Father’s Day tribute by one of the local newspaper’s writers; she writes book and music reviews, and interviews musicians coming to the area. She did a great job of capturing her relationship with her father over the decades. It was very sweet. It made me think about my dad, Norman, and how our relationship changed over the decades. He went from my protector to my teacher to my bank to my friend and confidante, and probably back to my bank a few times, and eventually to my buddy and my charge, but through all of that he was always my hero. Just putting up with my mother and my siblings was heroic. But as I look back I realize his life wasn’t always easy, money was tighter than they ever let on to me, and yet we always had what we needed and most of all, we had fun.

I hear him in the form of my ever-present blue jay when I work in the yard, envisioning him as my on-site supervisor. I’ll be hosing off dirt in the driveway, remembering how he was a crazy man with the hose, and the jay will squawk at me and make me laugh.

I’d make Paella on Father’s Day. It was his favorite, loaded with lobster, sausage, shrimp and littlenecks. His smile and his effervescent, “Oh, boy!” made the work worth it.

He’s been gone almost 4 years now, and it’s becoming easier to remember him from my younger years, not just the last months of his life. But even then, with all of his pain he still found joy. Mostly in playing cards with his niece and nephew and me, and his bright smile when we’d walk in the door was proof. I keep hearing him lookup at me and say, “Hiya, baby!” I don’t ever want to forget how that sounds and expect that’s what I’ll hear first when I finally leave this mortal coil.

So here are some pics of Norman that make me smile.

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I hope you all have a wonderful Father’s Day. Kiss ‘em if you got ‘em.

Deborah

{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

Liz June 18, 2017 at 2:51 pm

He was one of a kind for sure! Such a dear soul!

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Annette June 18, 2017 at 3:08 pm

If you look up patience and kindness in the dictionary you’ll see Uncle Norman. What a great man!

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Carol Parker June 18, 2017 at 3:09 pm

Hello My Dear Deb!

I loved remembering your Dad, too, and all the great times we had together. He did love fun!! And cards!! So many wonderful card games and great meals!! I love you and all my Pepin memories!!
God bless you!

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Charles June 18, 2017 at 3:10 pm

Beautifully said….

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Melon June 18, 2017 at 3:39 pm

I love your Dad! Beautiful piece Deb….thanks for the reminder.

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Ursula June 18, 2017 at 3:48 pm

Beautiful tribute, Deb! Looking at all those pictures of happy times from the past made me feel very emotional remembering my own father and mother and the sweet times I spent with both of them all those years ago. I can see your dad’s joie de vivre in all of the photos, and I think he bequeathed that same joy to you as an everlasting gift to you and to everyone who is lucky enough to call you friend.

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Barbara Greene June 18, 2017 at 7:05 pm

Dear Deb,
I loved your tribute to your Dad. You have the wonderful memories of your loving relationship with him.
That is a gift from him to you.

I would love your recipe for Paella. It sounds delicious.

Love and hugs to you both.

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Octavia June 18, 2017 at 9:18 pm

“Kiss ’em if you got ’em”… he was a lucky man to have you as daughter. Thanks for sharing such tender moments. You as a small girl in the boat next him say so much…

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Linda Beazley June 18, 2017 at 9:52 pm

Deb, What a wonderful tribute to your Dad. You remember some very fine qualities about him and he would be so proud of you today. My Dad has been gone for 30 years now and I can’t believe it’s been that long. John tells me I have his sens of humor and I feel very proud about that. They are still
With us and it is so comforting.
Love, Linda

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Jane Monteiro June 18, 2017 at 10:19 pm

Beautiful tribute to a truly wonderful man.

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Mark Russell June 18, 2017 at 10:43 pm

Loving thoughts of uncle Norman today Deb. What a great man and truly appreciate everything he did to invite us into the Pepin family.

XOXOX

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Therese Goodchild June 19, 2017 at 8:01 am

Thanks for sending these lovely photos. I assume the little girl in the boat is you. Now I know where you get the love for the sea.
Love you, Therese

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Michelle June 19, 2017 at 8:44 am

xoxo 🙂

– beautiful

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Andrea June 20, 2017 at 1:52 pm

He was one-of-a-kind. So loving and open and full of life and always ready to help people. Reminds me of someone……..

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Deborah June 21, 2017 at 11:10 am

😉

D. xxx

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